PaPa
~dellgirl~ answered my Good Morning call today (he’s working out of town) with,
“Hey Baby, what’s up?” That brought an inner smile reminding me how that came
about.
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We’ve been married 48 years now. For many
years, I sweetly called my husband “Tiger”. Sometimes I called him “Sugar-Bear”. Why did I do that?
I did it
because it did my heart a lot of good to hear my own daddy refer to my Mama as, “Baby Girl” or “Baby Doll” when we
were growing up. I remembered that, and adopted the practice of calling my
husband something sweet and endearing.
He
always called me by my name, “Dell”. In the beginning I didn’t think much about
it and continued calling him by my special “pet names”. He continued calling me
by my name. This went on for years without my saying a word to him about it.
Sometime
during 2013 I stopped. “Click”, I turned off the sweet name button, getting old
and cranky I guess. I started calling him
by his name instead of those silly pet
names.
One
particular telephone conversation went something like this.
Husband:
“Hey Dell, how you doing? I just called to say hi and see if everything is
going okay.”
Me: “Oh,
hey Pete (made up name). I’m fine. How are you? Everything is okay here. No
problems to report.”
More talk,
a little chit-chat and stuff like that, then he interrupted me. He asked what
I’d called him. I told him I called him Pete. He then asked why I did that.
I
explained that since I am always Dell, he will now be Pete. Long story short, it took several months but,
he finally got it. Things have changed.
Now, he
lovingly calls me “Baby” or “Honey” at least twice every other day or so. Sometimes
he even says, “sweet-heart”. Go figure!
Boy,
marriage is truly a WIP, isn’t it?
so much to learn from a committed relationship especially patience...lol!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right, Lin. There is a lot to learn. Sometimes I think I should have taken a pre-marriage class/course. Thanks for coming by and for the nice comment.
DeleteMarriage is definitely fun. He often calls me Sweetie if he’s in a good mood. Wow! 48 years? That’s wonderful. We have 45 under our belt.
ReplyDeleteThose fun times are the BEST, can't have too many of those, Kay. OH, you hit the nail on the head about the "good mood". If he's not in a good mood, I don't get called anything.
DeleteCongratulations on 45 wonderful years. That's quite a milestone too.
So it's true...old dogs can learn new tricks so to speak. Love this story!
ReplyDeleteFor sure, it's very interesting when old dogs can learn new tricks, Jean. That's exactly what I thought when the mister "Got it".
DeleteThank you so much for taking time to come by here to read. I especially appreciate your taking time to leave a lovely comment. That means a lot to me.
Wishing you a Great Sunday!
Blessings.....
ReplyDeleteHope all is well.
i tried commenting and was not able to, still not able from my phone or tablet etc. Don't know why. Some am stealing a moment on my break at work.
I will say what i said last week.
You gotta give your man props. He pays attention and even better he listens because he was able to catch on right away that he was demoted from tiger to muffin and he didn't like it. Even better he did something about it you ensure that you know that you are worthy. Girl give that man some sugar!
A fabulous weekend to you.
Mama's ok?
Ditto everything you said my dear friend. It was refreshing to know he listened and did something about it. Thank you for the nice comment.
DeleteI'm right there with you on the not being able to comment, that is so frustrating. I'm noticing that my comments are not appearing on some of my blog friends' blogs AT ALL. Don't know what's up with that.